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Building a Household of Faith

June 29, 2008 · Leave a Comment

Just to let you know that my dh, Henson is conducting a 2-day session on Building a Household of Faith at Christalite Methodist Church on 5th & 12th July, 2008.

A synopsis of the session is found below. More details can be found at Christalite Methodist Church’s website and here.

If you would like to attend, please contact the church directly.

Building a Household of Faith

The prophetic word has been given that families will come under even more tremendous pressure and attack in these last days. What are our roles as Christian parents in these final days? Amidst the stresses and pressures of work and life, how do we stay focused to the task and not give up? Is it just parenting skills we need, or a clear and concise understanding of God’s word and His mandate for parents as they seek to build a household of faith? This course examines the state of the family today, and the pressures it is exposed to. Against this backdrop, it also highlights the urgency for Christian households to get back to God’s Word and His design for their families to live victoriously in these trying times.

  • Purpose
    • The Need for Godly Vision in the Family
  • Prayer
    • The Power of Prayer
    • Praying Together as Husband & Wife
  • Partnership
    • Working with God
    • Being Watchful
  • Position
    • Our Position in Christ
    • Standing Watch Over the Weak Areas
  • Preparedness
    • The Weapons of Warfare
    • Equipping the Household
    • The Role of Discipline
  • Prophetic
    • Hearing the Voice of God
  • People
    • The Household in Community
    • The Household in Accountability
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    Categories: Announcements

    10 Myths Debunked!

    June 27, 2008 · Leave a Comment

    People often have certain thoughts going on in their heads when they see our family of 8 or hear that we have 6 children (no, no twins, thank you very much!). Then when they find out that we homeschool, have no maid and that dh is in fulltime ministry, their eyes grow bigger and they start thinking that we must be from some other planet :)

    So I thought I should address these common myths people tend to have of us, just because we have many children and homeschool and have no live-in maid. In other words, being totally un-Singaporean :)

    To cover them all in one posting would make for a long and dreary reading :) So I thought I should come up with the top 10 common myths people associate with us and tear them down, point-by-point!

    1. I am a Superwoman
    2. We are very spiritual
    3. I am a very patient
    4. I am a disciplined/organised person
    5. I don’t ever shout at the children
    6. We must be very rich
    7. Our meals are always balanced and healthy
    8. The children never fight with each other
    9. Our homeschooled children are geniuses
    10. Homeschooling goes on perfectly everyday
    11. Myths : Conclusion

    If you have more beliefs about us that are not listed here, feel free to add them to the list. Dh says I should write a book! :)

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    Categories: Family

    De-Cluttering the Playroom

    June 25, 2008 · 2 Comments

    Inspired by the Organizing the Playroom edition over at I’m an Organizing Junkie’s blog, I decided to clear out our balcony, aka toy-cum-tools-cum-I-don’t-know-where-to-put-this-stuff room.

    It is a very small space that was originally meant to be used as an open-air area for laundry. But the previous owner managed to cleverly convert it into an extra room by putting up windows and grills and a false ceiling! We liked his idea and have used it as our toy-cum-tools-cum-i-don’t-know-where-to-put-this-stuff room ever since we moved in. :)

    In the beginning (2.5yrs ago), there was, of course, very little stuff in there. But recently, it was getting so difficult to vacuum and mop that room without spending much time pushing stuff from one side of the room to the other! Besides, I felt bad for our Chinese tutor who had to teach in that claustrophobic space. She must be distracted by the amount of stuff in there each time she came to the house!

    The Balcony Project

    Since I hate clutter and I hate mess, I decided to DE-CLUTTER!!!

    But I had a big challenge - a crawling-I’m-curious-about-everything-baby! As we had LOTS of stuff in the room, I knew I needed at least 2 whole afternoons to clear it out. Ideally, I should do it during her naptimes but since she only naps an hour per nap (just like all her other siblings at the same age. Sigh.), it would take me forever to finish this project!

    I decided to bite the bullet and do it with her. I also enlisted the help of my oldest child. With one more pair of hands, things would progress much faster. He was to be my gopher, my errand boy. And he was a great help! He got rewarded with a Murderous Maths book (he loves maths!).

    It was amazing. We were done de-cluttering by the end of the day (a total of almost 4 hours). We started when the baby went down for her nap. When she woke up, I nursed her and placed her next to me with the toys that had already been sorted and were “safe” for her to play with. We then continued to de-clutter steadily till dinner time. Then when she went to bed at night, I continued by myself till all the toys and games that needed to be thrown away/donated/sold were sorted out.

    The next day, (Saturday), we had no school so I proceeded to turn my attention to the tools and the I-don’t-know-where-to-put-this-stuff lot. Tools are my dh’s territory so I merely dusted the boxes and ignored them! :) The other stuff were again organised into throw away/donated/sold categories. After throwing out 4 huge trash bags of stuff, 2 vacuum cleaners (don’t ask!), and 2 skate scooters, I now actually have space on the shelves that used to be packed tightly with stuff.

    Organising them all

    But, throwing out things was actually the easy part. Organising what’s left was tougher.

    Sorting out the toys was the easier task. So I did that first. They were sorted into baskets : a) dollhouse toys, b) cars, c) balls, d) toy animals, e) children computers, f) baby toys, and g) wooden blocks*. I labelled the boxes by tying a piece of string with the appropriate picture card (for the non-reader) on it. (I’ll try to get some pictures of this).

    Tag with pictures and words for the non-reader

    Sorting out their card and board games was much tougher. The board games had bulky boxes. Which took up a lot of space. I then remembered an idea tossed up on the MOMYS Digest a long time ago – trash the box, keep all the game boards together in one place and pack the tokens/cards separately!

    Brilliant idea! I did not want to use ziplock bags as they always tore due to the children’s manhandling :( So on Tuesday, I went to a household supplies shop near our wet market and bought 10 rectangular boxes in white. In the afternoon, I completed the balcony project!

    Boxes where the board game tokens go

    All the boxes and game boards were labelled. The game tokens/cards were placed into them. Now, all our games fit neatly into ONE big drawer (from Ikea’s Antonius range) instead of occupying 3 shelves!

    The balcony now looks so spacious and organised. Maintenance should be a lot easier now … till the next time, that is!

    Finally organised!

    * Legos and MegaBloks belong in a class of their own. Legos go upstairs in the boys’ room since that is the bigger room of the two, with enough space for them to pour everything out. MegaBloks are kept in a huge Toyogo plastic box under the side table in the dining area since that’s the only space that it can fit.

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    Categories: Home Management

    The Homeschooling Father

    June 16, 2008 · Leave a Comment

    Many times it is us, moms, who are doing the main bulk of homeschooling but without the full and complete support of dad, homeschooling is going to fall flat on its face eventually.

    I remember the day when the Lord spoke to me concerning this issue when I was debating whether to homeschool or not. Through an email newsletter, God told me in no uncertain terms that without the full endorsement of the head of the house, one shouldn’t proceed to homeschool.

    Fathers are so important in this journey of homeschooling. Do not leave your dh out as you make your curriculum choices and do update him on the progress (or non-progress!) of homeschooling.

    This month, in honour of homeschooling fathers, Heart of the Matter features an article on The Homeschooling Father by Michael Farris. Check it out. And may you be blessed as you continue to teach your children.

    The Homeschooling Father

    By Michael Farris
    Founder and Chairman, Home School Legal Defense Association

    Parents do not need professional training to become excellent homeschool instructors. But they do need divine empowerment if they are going to have the stick-to-it-iveness necessary to keep to the task as their children progress from toddler to adult. Every homeschooling father needs to begin to examine his duty to his wife and children by considering their need for spiritual empowerment. They are going to be mocked by friends, neighbors and relatives. They may be prosecuted by authorities. They are going to face spiritual warfare. They are going to have to do a lot of plain old hard work.

     

    To continue the article, please visit Heart of the Matter Online….

     

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    Categories: Homeschooling

    Addictions

    June 15, 2008 · 2 Comments

    Hi! My name is Serene and I am a computer addict.

    Aaarrgghh! It dawned upon me recently that I am actually rather addicted to the computer! And I was addicted, till recently, to coffee and retail therapy as well!

    I have realised that for me, my addictions are a form of escapism. When I am stressed, I turn to the computer for relief, instead of the Lord. I tell myself that I am researching for a better curriculum/household appliance/book/toy/
    clothes…the list goes on, to help me in my job as a mom. But seriously, am I really doing that? I am actually using that excuse to justify my escape from either the children or work that I am supposed to be doing.

    Addictions are a terrible thing to have. As Christians, it is even worse! Addictions mean that we have put something/someone else ABOVE God! And we have therefore violated the first and greatest commandment to ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ Matthew 22:37.

    What other addictions can one have?

    • Coffee/Tea – the caffeine fix
    • Retail Therapy or Shopping
    • Food
    • TV
    • Talking on the telephone
    • Going out

    …the list goes on. Anyone or anything can be an addiction. Ask yourself, what is the first thing you do or think of doing when you are stressed? That would be your “god”, your addiction. I am not saying that you can’t do anything to de-stress. But you have to be honest with yourself – are you de-stressing or escaping?

    What do all these things, I listed above, have in common? Each of them provides instantaneous stress relief but are all temporary and you need it in increasing amounts. Notice how the next time you get stressed, you would need to surf more, shop more, eat more to get the same kind of relief.

    So what is a mom to do?

    How can we turn away from our addictions? I don’t think there is an easy way at all. We need to go to our source of strength and wisdom and comfort – Jesus. We just have to ask God for help and then discipline ourselves. And, if necessary, get an accountability partner.

    Jesus says,

    “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30

    When we are stressed, we need to stop turning to useless, temporary “gods” for relief. We need to go to God and ask for his help. 

    As for me, I have made a resolution to not turn on the computer till I have finished all the work I need to complete each day. Oh Lord, help me! :)

    How about you?

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    Categories: Family