This has been on my mind lately. Just what makes a godly wife or mother? Someone who prays regularly? Reads the Bible to her children daily? Makes everyone do memory verses? Someone who attends church regularly? Someone who attends/leads Bible Study classes? All of the above? None of the above? Then comes the more thought provoking question – am I a godly wife and mother?
The 1828 Webster’s Dictionary defines godly as
Pious; reverencing God, and his character and laws.
Living in obedience to God’s commands, from a principle of love to him and reverence of his character and precepts; religious; righteous; as a godly person.
Pious; conformed to God’s law; as a godly life
So someone who is godly is like God, reflects His glory and His character. Like Jesus did when He was on earth. And like my dh says – being godly is genderless.
Therefore a godly wife and mother is one who is :
Conformed to the image of Christ,
Walks in obedience to His call and way, and
Seeks His face
How does this work out in the practical day-to-day living? If I am a godly wife and mother, whatever and all that I do should reflect that I am a person who is increasingly being conformed to the image of Christ, walking in obedience to His call on my life and seeking His face daily.
In other words, if I am ignoring my husbands needs, shouting at the children or choosing to laze around while a mountain of laundry is staring at me, I am not being a godly wife or mother!
If God has called me to stay home and raise the children He has blessed me with and I choose to work out of the home or be home but gripe about being stuck at home, I am not being a godly wife.
A godly wife and mother will perform her roles and duties with joy and gladness, confident and secure in where God has placed her. Because she is in close communion with God and walking in obedience, her attitude will reflect that.
How to be a godly wife and mother?
All that sounds good, but how exactly do we achieve that?
One very simple key – We need to spend time with God (see The Necessity of Quiet Time, Falling Off the QT Wagon, and Why Use A Devotional?). Then only can we be close to Him and tap into His power (John 15, abiding in the vine, remember?) and then we will be transformed by the renewing of our mind (Roman 12:2). How else can we know what God wants for us to do unless we spend time with Him? How else can we be changed unless we are reading His Word?
There is just no other way. And there are no short-cuts either! Believe me, I have tried!
What else does a godly wife and mother do?
I did not grow up in a Christian home and did not know what it meant to be a godly wife or mother. It was hard enough learning to be good wife and mother, period! Adding godly to the description made it even more challenging!
But I have been so blessed. God led me to various websites and email discussion groups that has helped me to grow in leaps and bounds in knowing the Lord even as I could not attend sermons on a regular basis (mostly I was with my baby or toddler in the Cradle Roll).
That coupled with personal devotion time with the Lord led me to realise that there are certain things I needed to do as part of my walk as a godly wife and mother.
Like submission for instance! Ah! This is a hot potato isn’t it?
No one wants to talk about it. Women look upon that word with disdain and men look sheepish when admitting that they would like their wives to be submissive.
Submissiveness has become a dirty word, implying that only a wimp would submit – hey! We are equals! That a man must be a male chauvinistic pig if he so mentions that word. But the Bible teaches clearly that a woman is to submit to her husband even as he submits to Christ. There is a hierarchy of order that God has put in place. See Ephesians 5:21 – 24.
There are other roles and duties we take on as we walk with God to become conformed to His image. I will touch upon this in the next article – The Roles and Duties of a Godly Wife and Mother.
But I would like stress that just doing the duties on a list does not make us godly! Anyone can do it. Remember what it means to be godly – to be like God. If we perform our roles and duties out of a “have-to” attitude or in a mechanical or grudging way, then we are not being godly but being legalistic and missing the whole point altogether!
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